Screw perfect. This is better. The shift that changed everything for me.

What if the mess is the point?

I disappeared last week for March Break – during which I enjoyed a mini, self-imposed writing retreat to work on my book in between taking kids to jungle gyms, shopping for spring clothes and dealing with our first ever teen driver scrape-up 🤦‍♀️… but that’s a story for another day.

What I want to share is the MAJOR F***ING BREAKTHROUGH I experienced in my writing, and since writing is just like life and lessons for one mirror lessons for the other, of course I needed to bring this to you.

Basically, just a couple of weeks before the break, I was devastated over all the problems I’m experiencing with this next book – so many things that I want to say, and so many fears, doubts, open loops and inconsistencies. It was – is – a hot mess.

But weeks after listening to the George Saunders interview with Rick Rubin, what he said finally landed for me, about how problems are actually a good thing. The sign of a great book. And how he’s learned to welcome them in since realizing this.

All of a sudden, in that moment of feeling completely lost and bereft, that lesson finally clicked, and something in me shifted.

Radical acceptance.

And I have never written so quickly, nor so joyfully, since experiencing this.

There is nothing I can say or do that can screw this up. Because even the biggest problems are perfect.

So that’s what I want to share with you today. Screw the rules of craft. The silver linings polish of positive psychology.

Bring me your flaws. Your mess. Because that. Is. GOLD.

Will you radically accept that with me?

Yours in spirit,

Cat xo

PS: I'm playing with the idea of hosting a retreat. Let me know if that's something you might be interested in!

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